What You See is What You Get
Have you ever met someone who just exude confidence? Maybe it was in how this person walked, talked or was able to maintain eye contact without being intimidating. I am a shy person. For most of my teen age and young adult life, people assumed that I was either aloof, stuck-up or mean. I never realized how much my shyness kept me from meeting new people until in college a young woman approach me and said that we were in the same class and that she wanted to introduce herself earlier, but I looked like I could not be bothered. What she said really made me take a good look at myself. I realized that although I was avoiding people out of fear, people thought I was ignoring them out of arrogance.
First impressions do last a lifetime. If you present yourself as someone who can't be bothered, people won't bother with you. We often unknowingly sabotage great relationships or networking opportunities with our mannerisms, gestures and overall attitude.
Take a look at how you present yourself to others.How do you express yourself? How do you communicate non -verbally with others? What do your behaviors say about your character? Ask people you know what was their first impression of you.
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That actually takes a bit of self-confidence in itself, because most people are going to hear something different back than what they expect. I might have to try that with my FIL and his wife. Yikes! :D
Posted by: LuAnn | October 06, 2005 at 10:21 AM